The Topic: ME/\/

All people, men and women, are egocentric. It is a natural state, since all of our experiences are restricted to our own conciousness, to some extent.

Depending on social experiences, this is reduced as babies become children, and children become adults. For different people, it is reduced by a greater or lesser extent. For instance, without speaking with both of you, I cannot be a judge that he is indeed being selfish, or if it is not your perception that brings you to this conclusion. Most likely, it is a little bit of both.

And for some, the development I mentioned above is completely stunted. What amazes me is that women still sleep with these social throwbacks.

Can't see a reason to do that.

Approaching him should be done gently. I'd advise against a special, romantic night, because critiques can turn such a night sour fast. Don't pick just any time. Perhaps after a meal, when he is full and sleepy, would be best. And when you speak to him, don't speak in absolutes, say "I sometimes feel this way" or something similar. Absolutes will put him on the defensive.